Men are disturbed not by things, but by the view which they take of them.
Several weeks back we discussed the idea of how words affect our outlook. I shared a list of words and phrases that can be used to focus thinking in a positive direction. A positive view can be helpful versus a limiting view when working towards a goal.
Instead of saying this is a problem, we could say something like this is an opportunity to learn something new.
Instead of saying I’m a poor speaker, we could say something like I’m getting better at speaking each time I do it.
So, what about you? Do you let the thing bother you, or do you find a more empowering way to view it? What are the empowering phrases that you use?
See Your Goals, as if You Have Already Achieved Them.
I think Monday morning is the best time to think about Friday afternoon. Not because it means the start of the weekend, but because it means we can feel the excitement of reaching our goals or the satisfaction of being that much closer to them.
As one of my favorite authors says; “The secret to productive goal setting is in establishing clearly defined goals, writing them down and then focusing on them several times a day with words, pictures and emotions as if we’ve already achieved them.”
– Denis Waitley.
There’s a well shared expression that goes something like this; If you can’t measure it, you can’t manage it.
I’m a big believer in this concept because it reminds me of another expression, you can’t hit what you can’t see. If you want to hit the bulls eye of a target, you have to know where the target is. If you want to reach your goal, you have to know where it is and how to get to it.
So, you can understand why I share these sayings with my clients each time we meet.
What’s your target and how will you know when you hit it?
Goal Setting is Easy, Goal Achievement is a bit harder.
Goal Setting techniques always seem to start the same way–Step 1: Describe what you want.
But remember, it is important to be specific.
Many of my clients struggle with Step 1. Usually because they don’t take the time to think about exactly what they want, and they don’t understand the importance of being specific.
One technique to help clients work through Step 1 is to have them write a paragraph or two describing the specifics of the goal they want to reach. Next, I ask them to set it aside for a few hours, then go through it again to add more detail.
Taking time to think through the goal allows us to see it more clearly. This clarity helps us to feel the excitement and enthusiasm necessary to move consistently towards the goal. (Step 2)